Things That Annoy You

[HorrorRetro]

LOL - my first response came out a little wrong. "Oh, you're afraid of flying? Hey, look at these crazy people on planes!" Sorry 'bout that. I meant that I'm sure you'll be fine â€" chances are good you won't end up on a YouTube video. Do you drink? I always have one before and usually during the flight.

It's okay.    My own family is making similar jokes, so I'm just rolling with it. My husband wasn't thinking and joked last night that I'm more likely to be hit by lightning then hurt in a place incident.  He forgot that my dad was killed by a lightning strike.   : 

No Xanax is in my future, unfortunately.  Although I think I might have a 5-year-old Ativan or Valium in the back of my kitchen cupboard, but just one. Might stick it in my purse just in case.  I definitely do drink, but the thought of a G&T that early isn't very good. I've actually purchased the ticket and will be flying at 6:30 a.m. on Friday, arriving in Virginia at 4:15 p.m.   

[UnscreenedCaller]

I hate to fly, too. It has nothing to do with 9/11 and everything to do with no ground under my feet. I like the flights that have those satellite TV screens on board to distract me, or I'll bring a journal sized sketchbook and block everything out while I sketch. Ugh.

[FallenSeraph]

It's okay.    My own family is making similar jokes, so I'm just rolling with it. My husband wasn't thinking and joked last night that I'm more likely to be hit by lightning then hurt in a place incident.  He forgot that my dad was killed by a lightning strike.   : 

No Xanax is in my future, unfortunately.  Although I think I might have a 5-year-old Ativan or Valium in the back of my kitchen cupboard, but just one. Might stick it in my purse just in case.  I definitely do drink, but the thought of a G&T that early isn't very good. I've actually purchased the ticket and will be flying at 6:30 a.m. on Friday, arriving in Virginia at 4:15 p.m.   

Bloody marys are your friend then.

OK, well I for one will be rooting for you, Friday! It'll be all good and you'll have a blast when you get there.

And KILLED BY A LIGHTNING STRIKE? Damn, that sucks. I'm sorry to read that.

[HorrorRetro]

Bloody marys are your friend then.

OK, well I for one will be rooting for you, Friday! It'll be all good and you'll have a blast when you get there.

And KILLED BY A LIGHTNING STRIKE? Damn, that sucks. I'm sorry to read that.

Thanks.  Yeah, he survived being wounded 5 times in Vietnam, earning several medals, and then was hit while working in the Texas oilfields saving money to go to medical school back in '79.   

I'm going to download several books to my Kindle and try to stay calm while flying. That's about all I can do.

[Cynnie]

Flying is like taking a bus nowadays ..so grimy and dull ..bleah

[HorrorRetro]

Flying is like taking a bus nowadays ..so grimy and dull ..bleah

That's what I'm hearing.  It sounds like a flying Greyhound bus.  I've taken a Greyhound from WA state to Maryland before, so I don't look forward to that.  The last time I flew, we had free champagne and it was just a 350-mile trip.  This time I think I'm supposed to exist on peanuts from one coast to the other.  I looked into taking Amtrak, but it sounds like it's gone to hell as well.  I took my return trip back across the country on Amtrak, and it was awesome, but that was back in '95.  My twin sister flies a lot and says most people bring their own food these days. 

[PB the Deplorable]

That's what I'm hearing.  It sounds like a flying Greyhound bus.  I've taken a Greyhound from WA state to Maryland before, so I don't look forward to that.  The last time I flew, we had free champagne and it was just a 350-mile trip.  This time I think I'm supposed to exist on peanuts from one coast to the other.  I looked into taking Amtrak, but it sounds like it's gone to hell as well.  I took my return trip back across the country on Amtrak, and it was awesome, but that was back in '95.  My twin sister flies a lot and says most people bring their own food these days.

It'll be a snap.  Last time I flew they had a huge amount of music to listen to, and when we landed I wasn't quite ready to get off the plane.

[Cynnie]

A train would be awesome ! But damn its sooo expensive !
Im queen of finding really uber cheap flights ..so i mainly fly..
And i've been trying to "bring back" the old time glamour of taking an airplane ..i dress nice and wear make up even ( i hate make up )

Bring your own food for sure !  And drink all the ginger ales they'll allow.

[HorrorRetro]

A train would be awesome ! But damn its sooo expensive !
Im queen of finding really uber cheap flights ..so i mainly fly..
And i've been trying to "bring back" the old time glamour of taking an airplane ..i dress nice and wear make up even ( i hate make up )

Bring your own food for sure !  And drink all the ginger ales they'll allow.

I love your attempt to bring back glamour to flying. When we were little kids, my grandpa used to take us to the airport to people watch; eat in the restaurants, which were quite fancy back then; and out on the observation decks to watch the planes take off and land. It was a lot of fun and so exciting -- nothing like it is now.

[Cynnie]

The Asian airlines are glorious ! If you ever see the flight attendants walking by its just lovely ..
They are all teeny and dressed in wonderful costumes ( and heeels!! )  ..very 50s
Then you see our flight attendents  and they have asses the size of a barn and comfy shoes ..so depressing

[Cynnie]

I love your attempt to bring back glamour to flying. When we were little kids, my grandpa used to take us to the airport to people watch; eat in the restaurants, which were quite fancy back then; and out on the observation decks to watch the planes take off and land. It was a lot of fun and so exciting -- nothing like it is now.

Btw i love your granddad

[ItsOver]

I love your attempt to bring back glamour to flying. When we were little kids, my grandpa used to take us to the airport to people watch; eat in the restaurants, which were quite fancy back then; and out on the observation decks to watch the planes take off and land. It was a lot of fun and so exciting -- nothing like it is now.

I avoid flying as much as possible.  It used to be a treat, now it's nothing but a pain.  I remember my first flight was on a roomy DC-10.  It was a champagne flight, even for coach, and had a bar and an arcade game, like PacMan, between first class and coach.  The flight attendants were still called stewardesses, gasp, and were actually pleasant.  Going forward in time doesn't always mean progress. 

[bateman]

Sigh. Pan Am flight in the 60s:

[HorrorRetro]

Sigh. Pan Am flight in the 60s:

Gorgeous. I'd be happy to get on a flight like that.

[bateman]

Gorgeous. I'd be happy to get on a flight like that.

You'll need a G650 for that.

[ksm32]

I live near a Salvation Army outlet and food bank. Depending on which part of town I am working in that day I may drive by it in the morning. The food bank people line up from 8am through 9am. Here is my issue (BIG ONE) they all seem to have money to smoke while waiting for the free food. Their body language makes me very angry as they seem to have a kind of (world owes me) kind of way about them. I won't even get in to the number of rug rats they all have running around the parking lot of the place. That would open up an entire other can of worms.

[onan]

Gorgeous. I'd be happy to get on a flight like that.

not that I am all that impressed with the regular passenger on Delta today... but that group... they think Dick Van Dyke is/was pushing the envelope.

[Heather Wade]

I live near a Salvation Army outlet and food bank. Depending on which part of town I am working in that day I may drive by it in the morning. The food bank people line up from 8am through 9am. Here is my issue (BIG ONE) they all seem to have money to smoke while waiting for the free food. Their body language makes me very angry as they seem to have a kind of (world owes me) kind of way about them. I won't even get in to the number of rug rats they all have running around the parking lot of the place. That would open up an entire other can of worms.

Dude.  The apartment complex I just moved from used to be nice.  They started accepting Sec 8, and o.m.g.   

They might as well change the name of the place to Mideval Times, or Screaming Baby & Yapper Dog Apartments now.  Lord almighty.  They all have an obligitory yap pooch (nothing against dogs, I love all animals), screaming baby (ditto on babies), and they all smoke.  Ok, I smoke too, and love it, this is not harshing on smokers.  But, they look like they just stepped out of a trash can, and seem to keep their homes (from glances passingby) in a similar condition.   

Guess my point is, I don't see people trying.  Maybe I'm blind, maybe I live in a shitty town, or maybe it's too hard for folks and they just give up these days.  That I could understand, I get tired, I have pain, sometimes I want to wallow & give up too.  But god damn.

[Treading Water]

I love your attempt to bring back glamour to flying. When we were little kids, my grandpa used to take us to the airport to people watch; eat in the restaurants, which were quite fancy back then; and out on the observation decks to watch the planes take off and land. It was a lot of fun and so exciting -- nothing like it is now.

OMG!  One of my favorite memories of my granddad is the same.  We used to drive out to the airport and eat, then go out on the observation deck to watch it all....  He had to peel me off the "fence" when it was time to go.  And people had SMILES as they walked by....  ***sigh***


Good luck, safe trip, and congrats, Grandma! 

[onan]

Dude.  The apartment complex I just moved from used to be nice.  They started accepting Sec 8, and o.m.g.   

They might as well change the name of the place to Mideval Times, or Screaming Baby & Yapper Dog Apartments now.  Lord almighty.  They all have an obligitory yap pooch (nothing against dogs, I love all animals), screaming baby (ditto on babies), and they all smoke.  Ok, I smoke too, and love it, this is not harshing on smokers.  But, they look like they just stepped out of a trash can, and seem to keep their homes (from glances passingby) in a similar condition.   

Guess my point is, I don't see people trying.  Maybe I'm blind, maybe I live in a shitty town, or maybe it's too hard for folks and they just give up these days.  That I could understand, I get tired, I have pain, sometimes I want to wallow & give up too.  But god damn.

I live near a Salvation Army outlet and food bank. Depending on which part of town I am working in that day I may drive by it in the morning. The food bank people line up from 8am through 9am. Here is my issue (BIG ONE) they all seem to have money to smoke while waiting for the free food. Their body language makes me very angry as they seem to have a kind of (world owes me) kind of way about them. I won't even get in to the number of rug rats they all have running around the parking lot of the place. That would open up an entire other can of worms.

Yeah, it can be a real eye opener to see those with liimited options. And in that group you will find real seedy people and others that are just as morally inclined as you guys.

I suggest you volunteer at a shelter or food bank. It is real easy to find reasons to distance ourselves from those we don't understand. But getting to know some people that rely on any form of public assistance may open your eyes in a much different direction.

[PB the Deplorable]

Dude.  The apartment complex I just moved from used to be nice.  They started accepting Sec 8, and o.m.g.   

They might as well change the name of the place to Mideval Times, or Screaming Baby & Yapper Dog Apartments now.  Lord almighty.  They all have an obligitory yap pooch (nothing against dogs, I love all animals), screaming baby (ditto on babies), and they all smoke.  Ok, I smoke too, and love it, this is not harshing on smokers.  But, they look like they just stepped out of a trash can, and seem to keep their homes (from glances passingby) in a similar condition.   

Guess my point is, I don't see people trying.  Maybe I'm blind, maybe I live in a shitty town, or maybe it's too hard for folks and they just give up these days.  That I could understand, I get tired, I have pain, sometimes I want to wallow & give up too.  But god damn.

We have a couple of not too far away towns that were mostly made up of lower middle class to middle class working neighborhoods.  A few years back, the elected officials of the 2 towns  decided they should put up a bunch of public housing and convert some rental stock to sec. 8 in order to become more 'diversified'.

They used to be quiet, peaceful places.  A few of my friends grew up there and their parents still live there.  They are now war zones.  Violent crime, robberies, blight, drug dealing, gangs, graffiti, noise, side shows, police forces completely outgunned.

I hope the residents that voted for those people still feel good about themselves, good feelings and decisions based on emotions were what was behind the need to bring a bunch of criminals to their towns. 

[onan]

We have a couple of not too far away towns that were mostly made up of lower middle class to middle class working neighborhoods.  A few years back, the elected officials of the 2 towns  decided they should put up a bunch of public housing and convert some rental stock to sec. 8 in order to become more 'diversified'.

They used to be quiet, peaceful places.  A few of my friends grew up there and their parents still live there.  They are now war zones.  Violent crime, robberies, blight, drug dealing, gangs, graffiti, noise, side shows, police forces completely outgunned.

I hope the residents that voted for those people still feel good about themselves, good feelings and decisions based on emotions were what was behind the need to bring a bunch of criminals to their towns.

So what do you suggest? I get so tired of simplistic observations about the riff raff. Yeah there are criminals... guess the fuck what? they can't usually get into the upper middle class zipcode. So they lurk in the population that few care about and then all of a sudden the lines are blurred.

Lots of people for various reasons have real crappy life skills. They grew up learning ineffective skills, and in their limited world view they think they are the normal ones. That isn't too hard to comprehend is it?

But fuck lets just get irritated and form a group to be nothing but disgusted. Cuz that is so much easier than actually attempting some form of assistance. And don't give me the hidden hand of the economy, that is what got many of "those" people where they are now.

[PB the Deplorable]

The first thing to do is take care of ones self, ones family, ones neighborhood, ones town.  One doesn't invite this into it.

There are plenty of good ideas about how to fix things, but the politicians that are in charge of the inner cities this comes from refuse to listen to any of it.

So there isn't a thing the rest of us can do, except protect ourselves from it.  And remember - doing well in school 'is acting white', and 'no snitchin' '.

[onan]

The first thing to do is take care of ones self, ones family, ones neighborhood, ones town.  One doesn't invite this into it.

There are plenty of good ideas about how to fix things, but the politicians that are in charge of the inner cities this comes from refuse to listen to any of it.

So there isn't a thing the rest of us can do, except protect ourselves from it.  And remember - doing well in school 'is acting white', and 'no snitchin' '.

So what you are basically saying is let others fix it. And if they don't do it right it isn't your fault.

And there are a bunch of things you, yes specifically you, could do. Like befriending someone with problems functioning in the "normal" world. Go to a NAMI site, ask to volunteer. Work at a food bank, homeless shelter, man a phone bank for crisis situations. And none of those things cost you anything more than gas money and your time.

[PB the Deplorable]

... And don't give me the hidden hand of the economy, that is what got many of "those" people where they are now.

Not so.  Fatherless households, dependency on handouts, lack of educations (neither provided nor desired), and businesses (and jobs) being run out of town due to bureaucratic red tape and crime, is what caused this. 

[onan]

Not so.  Fatherless households, dependency on handouts, lack of educations (neither provided nor desired), and businesses (and jobs) being run out of town due to bureaucratic red tape and crime, is what caused this.

You truly are clueless. Yes there are homes with only one parent. Many times it is just a mom. Want to know how many families I saw this week that had both mom and dad and grand parents all wanting to make it better for their children? About 25 percent. More than 40% are single adults that have no family or at least no family close by. And many of those family members are also significantly suffering.

[Cynnie]

Not so.  Fatherless households, dependency on handouts, lack of educations (neither provided nor desired), and businesses (and jobs) being run out of town due to bureaucratic red tape and crime, is what caused this.

Thats bullshit .

[PB the Deplorable]

You truly are clueless...

Thats bullshit .

Then I must be wrong - the schools are wonderful, inner city kids are taking full advantage of them, boys growing up without dads aren't turning to crime, few are addicted, everyone is eager to work and those neighborhoods are full of jobs because business has stayed?  People use the safety net programs for a short time while until they get on their feet, show gratitude, and go get jobs? 

Then what's the problem?

[onan]

Then I must be wrong - the schools are wonderful, inner city kids are taking full advantage of them, boys growing up without dads aren't turning to crime, few are addicted, everyone is eager to work and those neighborhoods are full of jobs because business has stayed?  People use the safety net programs for a short time while until they get on their feet, show gratitude, and go get jobs? 

Then what's the problem?

There are lots of problems. Black and white thinking won't solve them. First, more people are interested in education than not. But that story doesn't make a great tv movie. Second there are not many jobs available. Two of the staff I work with are vocational specialists. And they do a spectacular job. Finding empoyment is hard in an economy that is offering few jobs. And guess what, those openings are usually filled quickly and there are still many more that don't get hired.

It seems to me your solution is to abandon those that don't meet your standard of appropriate behavior... believe me I wish I had a magic wand to make it all better. None of us have that.

Quite honestly, this problem isn't going away. It will always be with us. Thinking one political method will make it go away is just going to disappoint.

[onan]

Just to give a little perspective.

My son was finishing his degree. He had been working at time warner. Was always top in his group. Then one day he came home devastated. He had been laid off. Time warner outsourced the whole department to another country. 115 people now without a job and even worse no forewarnng to plan. He collected unemployment and managed to keep his life pretty much intact for close to a year. Then finances become harder to manage. His relationship suffered and eventually ended. He moved back in with us to save money and continue to seek emplyment. I watched him for more than a year fill out application after application. Resumes by the hundreds sent out monthly, with little interest. Usually told he was overqualified or didn't have enough experience. But more painful was the no response at all. Even temporary agancies had little to offer. Finally he did get a very good job but it took a very long time. And this is a person with many supports that the impoverished do not have.