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Random Topics / First time dad Destroyed by society
August 07, 2017, 11:47:09 PM
I'm sorry for there being no punctuation or anything I just need to get this out of my head
I'm 22 years old I'm having a baby with my beautiful wife she has been pregnant for about 5 or so months she has eaten more things then I have ever seen a living being eat for the first 4 months it was my job to get her food when she was not feeling like getting up at all hours of the night and to wash and bath her when she wasn't feeling well . I work at a job I hate more then anything but the money's good $15 so can't really complain it's third shift the graveyard shifty 11 pm to 7 am my wife works3 days a week so she is home more then I am so after my shift I come home to a mess the house is destroyed because she went on an eating spree so before I try to go to sleep I usually have to clean up wqher mess and do the chores she was supposed to do like feed our pets and pick up the house alittle all I wish to do when I walk in the door is sleep once I get in the bed I get about 3 hours of sleep before she insists I be up with her when we are awake she wants me to make her food and get her things from the store that are wildly expensive even through she knows two bites in she won't want it anymore and Ill will find it a week later in the couch cushions or under the bed even though she swears to me when I got it for her she had eaten it . anyway
Once I've gotten her what she needs I try to suggest we watch something or play video games but mostly she shakes her head at anything I want to do that seems even remotely fun to me and even when she does do what I wanna do for once she often acts so miserable it ruined it for me so we often do what she wants to so we don't get into conflict. NOW when we go to appointments for the pregnancy I am ignored as if I am not their the doctors never turn their heads to congratulate the both of us or ask if I have any questions (I'm just the dad) when we are out and about she gets a congratulations I hope your excited from strangers but I get nothing nothing at all I'm only the one that carrys you when your feet hurt no matter the distance the one to grab all the heavy bags to be their when you need me and thrown to the side when your bored the butler with only one true name (dad) why don't we get praise? Do people really think we truly had no part in the creation of this growing child? Why is it all about her? Why has society accepted that it's is okay to throw men to the wind once their significant other has been impregnated? That my life now has no meaning nor place in the life of my unborn child's future men everywhere have just accepted the fact that woman are allowed to do this to us there are thousands of websites for woman who are having trouble with coping with pregnancy and the fact that they will be a parent soon but only a handful of not less for men and young soon to be fathers I talked to my wife's doctor about their being support groups for dads and I got laughed out the door every time I bring my opinion about the situation to other woman they laugh as well.what's so funny? I'm just as scared as she is I don't want the woman I love to be in pain. This is my first child and I don't know what the hell im going to do either by she has lots of places to turn to and I have no one (dad) just dives right on in and if he drowns it wasn't meant to be....because you know... (I'm just the dad)
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