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Mother's Day Week of Easy Facials and an Oat Bath

Started by Jojo, May 12, 2019, 12:58:37 AM

Jojo

Happy Mother's Day.  Have an easy, fast, natural refreshing facial  masque a couple times this week to get rid of winter bumps and dryness and just feel better.  Your skin is constantly filtering out impurities from your body.  A little boost of a natural facial actually goes a long way toward assisting your body's largest organ.

Moisturizing and Smoothing Honey Masque
Ingredients:  1/8 cup (2 Tbsp) honey
Time:  20 minutes
Directions:  Open your pores by putting a very warm, thick, wet cloth over your face a couple times.  Dry your face so the honey won't run.  Fanning it dry is a great way to feel good.  Spread the honey over your whole face - no need to skip the eyes, nose or mouth because honey is harmless.  Let it set for 10-20 minutes.  Re-apply fresh honey to any spots that dry out too soon.  It's okay if the masque does not dry.  Set a cool, wet, thick cloth over your face to loosen the honey at the end.  Rinse it and then gently use it to remove the honey.

Honey works as an equivalent to glycolic acid, hyaluranic acid and alpha-hydroxy acid.  Yet it is gentle and soothing, a true humectant.  Your skin should feel relaxed when you are finished, so there usually is no need to moisturize for a while.

Purifying and Toning Oatmeal Masque
Ingredients:  1 or 2 Tablespoons oatmeal and water, a smear of avocado or a dash of olive oil optional
Time:  8 minutes
Directions:  Open your pores as above, with a very warm, thick, wet cloth.  No need to dry.  Mix the oatmeal and water into a thick slurry.  If you have dry skin, first smear your an avocado peel or a dash of olive oil over your wet skin.  Apply the oatmeal to your face.  It is safe for eyes, nose and mouth but might annoy the eyelashes.  Let it set for about 8 minutes or until dry.  Fanning it dry is nice, too.  Gently rinse your face with cold water and apply moisturizer if needed.

Oatmeal tightens the look of pores and can cure skin of small problem areas, like rashes.  It is a little drying.  When it is this close to your face, you might notice it has a slight floral fragrance which usually goes unnoticed.

Oat Bath
Put a couple tablespoons of raw oats into a waterproof sachet or half of a nylon with a hole in it.  Knot it.  Let it set in your very warm bath.  Gently squeeze the "milk" out of it.  Oats have saponins, which are natural skin cleansers, and it can prevent your skin from springtime itching.  No need to rinse, and the tub will remain clean throughout.

Summing it Up
I hope this helps us breathe deeply, relax, and feel better.  If this message reaches one person, then it was worth it   ;)!  Happy Mother's Day!

ksm32

I like it! Gonna do it! Tomorrow!


So this is what you do to stay, 14?





Jojo

You may not realize how offense your choice of time and place is.




AZZERAE

Quote from: 14 on May 12, 2019, 02:26:48 AM
You may not realize how offensive your choice of time and place is.

I'm sorry, I was being flippant. I genuinely didn't mean to hurt you.

Jojo

Quote from: Azzerae on May 12, 2019, 02:57:57 AM
I'm sorry, I was being flippant. I genuinely didn't mean to hurt you.
Well, it's not you necessarily.  It's just that lately all the threads are so baaaad.  I used to recommend this website to people but not in a long time.  I'd be too embarrassed.

It wasn't a bad joke, if it were in an adult entertainment rag...

AZZERAE

Quote from: 14 on May 12, 2019, 03:05:54 AM
Well, it's not you necessarily.

It wasn't a bad joke, if it were in an adult entertainment rag...

I failed. Thanks for understanding.



ItsOver

Quote from: 14 on May 12, 2019, 12:58:37 AM


Oat Bath
Put a couple tablespoons of raw oats into a waterproof sachet or half of a nylon with a hole in it.  Knot it.  Let it set in your very warm bath.  Gently squeeze the "milk" out of it.  Oats have saponins, which are natural skin cleansers, and it can prevent your skin from springtime itching.  No need to rinse, and the tub will remain clean throughout.

Summing it Up
I hope this helps us breathe deeply, relax, and feel better.  If this message reaches one person, then it was worth it   ;)!  Happy Mother's Day!
I'll bet Groyper is looking forward to this.  Just keep the horses in the stable, with those oats and their saponins floating around.






whoozit

I’m going to give Mrs. Whoozit a surprise Mother’s Day Facial.  No oats will be harmed.

AZZERAE

Quote from: whoozit on May 12, 2019, 07:06:45 AM
I’m going to give Mrs. Whoozit a surprise Mother’s Day Facial.

Gross.

SredniVashtar

Quote from: 14 on May 12, 2019, 03:05:54 AM
Well, it's not you necessarily.  It's just that lately all the threads are so baaaad.  I used to recommend this website to people but not in a long time.  I'd be too embarrassed.

It wasn't a bad joke, if it were in an adult entertainment rag...

All it takes is one bad apple and you have to toss out the whole barrel. I've spoken to him about this before and I hoped it was starting to sink in. I might have to start illustrating my remarks with a tyre iron next time. It's not entirely his fault; he was raised by apes and his baboonish humour doesn't always translate well to delicately nurtured people of the female persuasion, such as yourself.

whoozit

Quote from: Azzerae on May 12, 2019, 12:23:29 PM
Gross.
What’s gross?  I booked her a few hours at the spa later this week.  What did you think I meant?

Jojo

Quote from: SredniVashtar on May 12, 2019, 12:44:20 PM
All it takes is one bad apple and you have to toss out the whole barrel. I've spoken to him about this before and I hoped it was starting to sink in. I might have to start illustrating my remarks with a tyre iron next time. It's not entirely his fault; he was raised by apes and his baboonish humour doesn't always translate well to delicately nurtured people of the female persuasion, such as yourself.
Yes, there are so many other places online for humor at ladies' expense.  As awful as it was, it was humor and slightly on-topic.  If this were MAD magazine, it would've been fine. 

Do you think younger people are being drawn to the board?  I feel sorry for young ladies nowadays.  When I was young, men were so much more discreet about their drives. 

Circumcision doesn't help.  Interns could continue to snip a little, but there is no need to snip so much.  Doctors don't even really recommend it anymore.  It's a total violation of the international human rights of the boy.

Jojo

Quote from: whoozit on May 12, 2019, 07:14:55 PM
What’s gross?  I booked her a few hours at the spa later this week.  What did you think I meant?
Sweet.  I thought you were going to play with food!

Jojo

Quote from: Azzerae on May 12, 2019, 03:40:04 AM
I failed. Thanks for understanding.
Well, you will have to be punished, then. 

albrecht

Quote from: SredniVashtar on May 12, 2019, 12:44:20 PM
All it takes is one bad apple and you have to toss out the whole barrel. I've spoken to him about this before and I hoped it was starting to sink in. I might have to start illustrating my remarks with a tyre iron next time. It's not entirely his fault; he was raised by apes and his baboonish humour doesn't always translate well to delicately nurtured people of the female persuasion, such as yourself.
Luckily with proper GMO, pesticides, wax-like chemical coverings, carefully cultivated bland varieties, and modern transport this is not as much an issue as it was.  ;)   But interestingly there is a chemical reason for this saying. Norry would likely say something like "one bad apple is like shooting a smoking fish in a barrel," or something.

Jojo

Quote from: albrecht on May 12, 2019, 09:25:00 PM
Luckily with proper GMO, pesticides, wax-like chemical coverings, carefully cultivated bland varieties, and modern transport this is not as much an issue as it was.  ;)   But interestingly there is a chemical reason for this saying. Norry would likely say something like "one bad apple is like shooting a smoking fish in a barrel," or something.
I've noticed that too!  The last couple of years whenever I have a bad apple, the ones around it aren't affect.  So, it's real, then.

I was thinking, do you think Norry doesn't do much talking in real life?  It's almost like he needs practise.  Maybe he spends so much time interviewing people, asking them questions, that he's gotten rusty on the nuances of conversation!


whoozit

Quote from: Azzerae on May 13, 2019, 06:21:01 AM
I thought you were gonna cum on her face.
The mirror only casts a reflection, it does not create the image.

Jojo

Quote from: Azzerae on May 12, 2019, 12:23:29 PM
Gross.
By some people standards, your mind needs some freshening up.  Puzzles, volunteering, helping little old ladies...  Sex is only one part of life and licit sex only lasts from about 17 to maybe 75.  From 0-17 and 75-90, we are not real sexual.  So, for 32 years of your life you are not very sexual.  THIRTY-TWO YEARS.

I recently took care of a man in hospice.  He was in his mid-sixties.  Five years ago, he wanted to meet someone fun, so he basically bought a 26-year old girlfriend.  They had an agreement that she would be a steady source of sex and he would "help her out", which he did.  He kept his end of the bargain all the way.  I think he compensated her the equivalent of about $15,000 a year.  Not a bad deal for him - he could afford it.  They had sleep-overs, and his-and-her closets, and she kept a lot of stuff at his place.  But they didn't live together.  He didn't seem interested in marriage.  He intended for his mobile home to go to her when he deceased.

But he didn't buy love.  When hospice came, his girlfriend made sure we all knew she didn't want us moving things around.  She said nothing should be moved or changed.  She got angry when adult diapers, hand towels, urine pads and cleansers took up the space that had been occupied by her Comsos and Vanity Fairs.  He lay in a hospital bed in the middle of the room, weak, and her biggest concern was to loudly say accusingly, "Where are all my magazines?"

He bought her a $5 Starbucks drink another day.  She had a couple sips and that was it, never finished it.  Ever.  It just stayed in the fridge.  He complained about that.

She had stood by him in the hospital and she had helped him when he was feeble.  She even helped position his portable urinal and carry it to dump it in the toilet.  She was not a bad person, but when he started get very sick, she was not visiting very much.

He began to decline sharply.  His family kind of got in her face because she had allowed him to be so generous with her.  That put her off and she didn't feel welcome, so she stopped coming.  But the family apologized to her for being so judgmental, and they called her and asked her to come, but she wouldn't.  She was too immature to set her ego aside for the patient's sake.  She asked to talk to me on the phone.  I said her boyfriend would like to see her and was dying.  She promised to come.  She had very reliable transportation, but didn't come.

She never came, but had the gall to discuss division of property on the phone with family.  And he died.  Do you think love, in the end, might have made his transition easier?  He wasn't old and didn't want to die.  He had cancer.  He had a lot of friends who visited.  But he didn't have anyone who really understood and cared for him, other than paid help like me.  I wish instead of basically hiring an escort for 5 years, that he had married a woman he loved.  Someone who could hold his hand when he was afraid.  He didn't have luxury insurance, so he only got one care giver, and we were stretched very thin, sometimes pulling double shifts. There wasn't much time to sit with him, or hold his hand when he was afraid.  It was choatic due to lack of supplies and sudden hospice in a relatively young person.  I'm glad for the times I was able to sit with him, and hold his hand when he was afraid, but in the battle of providing service under pressured circumstances, my efforts were too little and too late, through no fault of my own.  If he had made his girlfriend his wife, she would have been there to comfort him, to understand what desperate supplies were needed, and to buy them on time or send us to fetch.  With a wife on hand, there would have always been someone to sit with him, to listen to his stories and humor, to encourage him, and to talk to him when he was afraid.  Many of this man's needs were not met because his family was from out of town and didn't know him very well.  I had to see a dying man ask for a minister on the night he died, and the answer from his family was, "We sent you one last week".  A wife would have done better.

But, this man focused, even into his sixties, on sex and having fun.  She was fun.  A little love in place of fun can go a long way toward increasing the meaning in one's lifespan so that when the end comes, one has a deeper sense of satisfaction and can let go peacefully.

AZZERAE

Quote from: 14 on May 13, 2019, 08:22:58 PM
By some people standards, your mind needs some freshening up.  Puzzles, volunteering, helping little old ladies...  Sex is only one part of life and licit sex only lasts from about 17 to maybe 75.  From 0-17 and 75-90, we are not real sexual.  So, for 32 years of your life you are not very sexual.  THIRTY-TWO YEARS.

I recently took care of a man in hospice.  He was in his mid-sixties.  Five years ago, he wanted to meet someone fun, so he basically bought a 26-year old girlfriend.  They had an agreement that she would be a steady source of sex and he would "help her out", which he did.  He kept his end of the bargain all the way.  I think he compensated her the equivalent of about $15,000 a year.  Not a bad deal for him - he could afford it.  They had sleep-overs, and his-and-her closets, and she kept a lot of stuff at his place.  But they didn't live together.  He didn't seem interested in marriage.  He intended for his mobile home to go to her when he deceased.

But he didn't buy love.  When hospice came, his girlfriend made sure we all knew she didn't want us moving things around.  She said nothing should be moved or changed.  She got angry when adult diapers, hand towels, urine pads and cleansers took up the space that had been occupied by her Comsos and Vanity Fairs.  He lay in a hospital bed in the middle of the room, weak, and her biggest concern was to loudly say accusingly, "Where are all my magazines?"

He bought her a $5 Starbucks drink another day.  She had a couple sips and that was it, never finished it.  Ever.  It just stayed in the fridge.  He complained about that.

She had stood by him in the hospital and she had helped him when he was feeble.  She even helped position his portable urinal and carry it to dump it in the toilet.  She was not a bad person, but when he started get very sick, she was not visiting very much.

He began to decline sharply.  His family kind of got in her face because she had allowed him to be so generous with her.  That put her off and she didn't feel welcome, so she stopped coming.  But the family apologized to her for being so judgmental, and they called her and asked her to come, but she wouldn't.  She was too immature to set her ego aside for the patient's sake.  She asked to talk to me on the phone.  I said her boyfriend would like to see her and was dying.  She promised to come.  She had very reliable transportation, but didn't come.

She never came, but had the gall to discuss division of property on the phone with family.  And he died.  Do you think love, in the end, might have made his transition easier?  He wasn't old and didn't want to die.  He had cancer.  He had a lot of friends who visited.  But he didn't have anyone who really understood and cared for him, other than paid help like me.  I wish instead of basically hiring an escort for 5 years, that he had married a woman he loved.  Someone who could hold his hand when he was afraid.  He didn't have luxury insurance, so he only got one care giver, and we were stretched very thin, sometimes pulling double shifts. There wasn't much time to sit with him, or hold his hand when he was afraid.  It was choatic due to lack of supplies and sudden hospice in a relatively young person.  I'm glad for the times I was able to sit with him, and hold his hand when he was afraid, but in the battle of providing service under pressured circumstances, my efforts were too little and too late, through no fault of my own.  If he had made his girlfriend his wife, she would have been there to comfort him, to understand what desperate supplies were needed, and to buy them on time or send us to fetch.  With a wife on hand, there would have always been someone to sit with him, to listen to his stories and humor, to encourage him, and to talk to him when he was afraid.  Many of this man's needs were not met because his family was from out of town and didn't know him very well.  I had to see a dying man ask for a minister on the night he died, and the answer from his family was, "We sent you one last week".  A wife would have done better.

But, this man focused, even into his sixties, on sex and having fun.  She was fun.  A little love in place of fun can go a long way toward increasing the meaning in one's lifespan so that when the end comes, one has a deeper sense of satisfaction and can let go peacefully.

That is an awfully sad story, and I’ve always admired folks who are able to be carers. As you know, I looked after an elderly family member for a long time at one stage, and it took a it’s toll on me, even though I am a patient and compassionate person, when it comes to family. My fuse was shortened tremendously by the end of those few months, and I many times said things I shouldn’t have.

But to your broader point, while sex is very important to men, and a significant factor in any romantic relationship, I do think we live in an oversexed age at this current time, and far too much importance is placed on it.

Jojo

Quote from: Azzerae on May 14, 2019, 03:08:14 AM
That is an awfully sad story, and I’ve always admired folks who are able to be carers. As you know, I looked after an elderly family member for a long time at one stage, and it took a it’s toll on me, even though I am a patient and compassionate person, when it comes to family. My fuse was shortened tremendously by the end of those few months, and I many times said things I shouldn’t have.

But to your broader point, while sex is very important to men, and a significant factor in any romantic relationship, I do think we live in an oversexed age at this current time, and far too much importance is placed on it.
I wonder if you had care giver burnout.  Do you think they forgave you?  I hope so.  They probably could tell you were under stress.  I agree. 

AZZERAE

Quote from: 14 on May 15, 2019, 12:43:54 AM
I wonder if you had care giver burnout. Do you think they forgave you? I hope so. They probably could tell you were under stress. I agree.

I did burn out. And yes, I was forgiven.

Jojo

Quote from: Azzerae on May 15, 2019, 02:41:27 AM
I did burn out. And yes, I was forgiven.
Well, that's good.  I'd like to think that even though politeness is best, perhaps you were related and perhaps they earned a few of your choice words.

Verbal confrontations are undesirable but in the overall morality spectrum, it could have been a lot worse.

Clients with severe dementia have tons of dementia-induced character issues which can be extremely hard to work with.  Confabulation, passive-aggression, unappreciativeness, hyper-criticalness, and so on.  But, most of it is the disease of effects of the disease.  They often are, basically, being impossible.  Sometimes the best I can do is remind myself I'm working with someone who has protected status and who may have the mind of a very strong, experienced three-year old, and proceed accordingly.

For anyone who cares to know, it is 100% true that a dementia client may never remember much, but they will remember how the care giver made them FEEL.  So, care givers are politicians, lol.

AZZERAE

Quote from: 14 on May 17, 2019, 07:33:20 PM
Clients with severe dementia have tons of dementia-induced character issues which can be extremely hard to work with. Confabulation, passive-aggression, unappreciativeness, hyper-criticalness, and so on. But, most of it is the disease of effects of the disease. They often are, basically, being impossible. Sometimes the best I can do is remind myself I'm working with someone who has protected status and who may have the mind of a very strong, experienced three-year old, and proceed accordingly.

The handful of traits you mentioned above are all things I've witnessed, absolutely.

I'm curious about your work as a carer. Did you tend to any psychiatric wards in particular, and do you have any anecdotes to share?

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